My Coming Out Story
It was harder for me to come out as agender to myself than anyone else.
The long process of unlearning gender began when I was in a Discord community this summer and saw people with they/them next to their usernames. I hadn’t considered that people could use non-binary pronouns until that moment, and it made me ask myself new questions about my gender identity.
If I hadn’t done that, I wouldn’t have shaken the uncomfortable feeling that I didn’t fit in gender as it’s often viewed today.
After opening this door, I felt more comfortable disagreeing with the traditional concept of gender identity. I now embrace the idea that everyone has their own journey with gender and all those journeys deserve respect. As a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, I find it important to understand that you create you and that can be anything.
Joseph Leonard is a fashion merchandising and management junior.